Shame's Destructive Lie
In you, LORD my God, I put my trust. I trust in you; do not let me be put to shame, nor let my enemies triumph over me. No one who hopes in you will ever be put to shame, but shame will come on those who are treacherous without cause. (Psalm 25:1–3 NIV).
We’ve all done things, we do things and no doubt we’ll continue doing things that we immediately regret. All too often, when we feel the first stirring of that regret, there is a little lie that seeks to get inside our heart. It doesn’t really start off as a lie but rather as an innocent question which soon grows into the lie.
The question is “why did you do that?” or “there you go again”. Immediately there is an opportunity for condemnation and guilt to land in our heart. Then the question grows: “you did that again”, “look at you, you’re not very good are you?”, “you’ve failed again”, “you’re a failure”, “because you’ve failed, you’re not a good person” Before long it’s grown into “you’re not loveable and therefore you’re not loved”.
What started off as doubt soon becomes a blanket of shame that we pull over ourselves and which causes us to hide. Once it grabs us the cycle of shame begins: there is something more I must do, there is something more I must have, there is something more I must become.
Rather than letting those regrets sink you, can I encourage you to remind yourself of this powerful truth “The Father himself loves you” (John 16:27
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